Unexpected gains

What do you do when life throws you a curveball in the middle of a snowstorm? Do you run? Do you cry? Do you throw yourself to the ground and give up? We all have a flight or fight option within us that kicks in when the unexpected happens. When the avalanche descends, and we decide to run anyway. Or when the paramedics come to aid a sick person and perform CPR, they are there to fight on behalf of the patient for that life.

That even in the midst of the chaos, there are gains to be learned. A new perspective will surely be found in what to change, new choices to be made, and highlight a better way will often reveal itself in the unknown moments. Just like in life, creating a marketing plan, choosing a new career path, or stepping out into business it can be daunting. The path isn’t always straight, and you may need to feel the fear, and do it anyway, but here’s the gain: Even if it fails or your faith, you will have gleaned something more valuable from the unexpected than if you had never stepped out in the first place.

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Better

Seth Godin recently said “Better is an assertion, one that requires not just the confidence to say it, but the optimism to believe that it’s possible.”

I agree. Let’s be better.

We could have been anything that we wanted to be; and still can!

Some cheesy inspiration from an old classic. If you read any of my posts you will know that I like to challenge us to think big. In light of my recent relocation I am reminded by this wonderful clip that we can be anything we want to be, and that we will be remembered for the things that we say and do. What do you want to be remembered as, and what do you want to be remembered for?

What London and life is teaching me

It’s official I’ve finally made the leap out of the country and into the city; from Glasgow to London to be precise. I’ve been horrendously bad at blogging over the past… cough… Two months; but with good reason. All that shuffling and waffling aside, it’s safe to say I have now arrived in London and as a new member of this big, bold and beautiful city I would like to document some of the harsh but priceless life lessons this new chapter has already served up.

1. Life is precious and must be treasured

In the three short weeks that I’ve been here I’ve witnessed a man being knocked down by a bus, (literally two feet from my side) and as my feet were forced to jump and skip over the debris, my heart raced with fear and distress of what I had just witnessed. Today, it happened again as I witnessed a man collapse at a bus stop in Shepherds Bush. When you’re forced to face moments like these you get a wake up like no alarm or sugarcoated motivational speech can provide. Life is precious and instead of beating around the bush, playing at relationships, living in a place of unhappiness, or working a job that you don’t enjoy we must learn to value and appreciate the time we have and the people in our world that really matter.

2. Time is the currency of life

Through personal experience I have come to the conclusion that if someone doesn’t value my time, then they don’t really value me: irrespective of how much I may like or appreciate them. Who we spend our time with, and what we spend our time doing is either adding or subtracting from our life. There’s a song in Avenue Q, which I saw last week at the Edinburgh Fringe festival that says, ‘there’s a fine line between love and a waste of time.’ To put this in context this was about relationships, but I believe that it can also apply to other areas of life.

3. History repeats itself unless we change the record

To write for me is to breathe, and often I spend the majority of my time writing about my own observations in the hope that someone else may benefit. In doing so I often find that there are threads of familiarity that run through each post I write, which bugs me ever so slightly – It’s also part of the reason I haven’t written a post in while, out of a desire to bring something fresh. If we never step out and try something new, or face up to the opportunity failure has to offer, then how can we expect our lives to be anything more than what it is right now. Even if everything is great right now, life is full of peaks and troughs and it would be foolish to ignore the reality that surrounds us.

 

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Don’t manage, lead.

Some recent events sparked the following thought, which led to the tonight’s blog. If you like the thought, or have something to add, leave a comment below and let’s get social. Don’t be a passive consumer! Let’s take the reins and lead together, or not. 

Why try to manage life, when you can lead. I’ve noticed there is often an emphasis on management in any of the companies I’ve worked for, (and I’ve worked for a few). In my opinion, to manage is to strive, or to push up a hill a weight that is often too big for anyone to carry. Life is more enjoyable, and accessible when we understand the value in the team around us, and in the opportunities we have at hand.

When we approach life from a leadership point of view, we will see the following:

1. Achieve greater results

2. Inspire others to follow

Just another random thought… I know it’s been a while since my last post. I’m editing my first fiction novel, at the moment, and taking my own advice (and the advice of Kid President) in Being A Light; and pursuing my dream with dedication, hard work and a lot of faith. Wish me luck!

 

A Mother’s Day Post

What a super week! From Oreo Cookie day, to World Book today, to International Woman’s Day. I have laughed, smiled, almost cried and had the BEST time celebrating this week. However, today, is a day that is really special. Today is the day we celebrate the beautiful woman in and around our world.

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A woman’s strength is found in her ability to rise and be courageous, and to love in the face of fear.

If you haven’t had a great experience in life, I’m sorry. I hope that we all find someone in our world to be thankful for. If you feel like there’s no-one to appreciate you today, then let me. Have a listen to the song below and find out what I think about, when I think about YOU.

To all my inspirational friends and family around the world: Happy Mother’s Day!!!!

Being a woman is a great privilege and honour; and sharing this world with some of the finest people on the planet is a true blessing. Men, never under-estimate the value of the woman in your world. Life is better lived together! Woman this goes for you too. Let’s get better at helping our sisters out.

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What does your environment say about you?

Today’s observation is again extracted from a personal experience. Two words:

Language

and

Environment

It astounds me how quickly we absorb the culture around us. Culture in our work place, in our peer group. We become who we are around.

Now this is not a newsflash to me, but knowing and understanding something are two very different things. To be honest, we need both to be successful.

Have you listened to those around you? There are certain buzz words that your peer group use that if someone, or a few from that group say them long enough, they become ingrained through-out that particular circle.

So if you want to know where your heading today in life. Stop and listen to the words, phrases and actions of your friends, colleagues and teammates.

Like what you hear? Don’t like what you hear? Do something to change it today. It’s not personal if you discover you need to make some changes to your environment. If you want to be an eagle, you can’t hang around with the chickens. If you want to speak French, you don’t go to Germany.

There is no shame in either, it’s simply a matter of choice to be who you are created to be.

To coin the phrase of a good friend; if we want to think outside of the box, we must first know where the box is.

Know who you are, be very careful what you listen to and what you say, and keep believing. A simple, but effective recipe.

Happy Burns Night to all my fellow Scots. 

Have a great weekend folks!