Holding life lightly

In the absence of blogging life has been teaching me a fair few tricks, hints, and lessons. I’ve been relentlessly applying to jobs, setting objectives, goals and doing everything I can to move towards them, whilst being party planner and bridesmaid to a lifelong friend.

I find every day is different in someway, with one challenge, or another; but above the confusion, toil and turmoil I have come to understand that to achieve success in any area of life it is good to hold life lightly.

If you hold on to a career, a relationship, or even something as materialistic as a car, then you run the risk of loosening the very thing you desire. Most of the motivational and leadership chat that I’ve heard seems to be focused on pushing people up a hill, but I want to suggest that there is not one reason for failure, but many. Most of the motivational and leadership chat that I’ve heard seems to be focused on pushing people up a hill,You can do nothing, and get nothing, or you can do everything and still get nothing. How is this possible? Well, obsession to always achieve, or win is equally bad as doing nothing to obtain the dream in your heart. Many hands make light work, but much work make light hands. In other words, the more you fill your time with stuff the weaker you become. People mistake busyness as a sign of strength, or achievement; but it’s not. It is only when we strike balance between hard work, and margin do we find ourselves in the slip stream of life.

Whatever you do today, make sure you take a moment to stop and enjoy what you have in your hand. It’s good to take stock, and don’t lose sight of what you do have on the way to where you’re going.

Imperfect Mondays

Here’s one I wrote this morning:

I woke up feeling a little groggy this morning, with grey sky and little, but a 65% rating on my sleep capacity – thanks to my new friendly app, Sleep Cycle. If you haven’t downloaded this already, then do it now! It has a funky alarm, and some disturbing sleep aids.

In spite of all of the fore mentioned challenges,  I am readily excited and expectant for a great week ahead – I refuse to accept anything different! …And you know I mean business when I wake up before my alarm; currently fighting the urge to stand up, in public, and shout; ‘BABY YOU AIN’T SEEN NOTHING YET’ at the top of my voice. Not that I would EVER do that… 😉

Hey, it’s Monday; and all I’m suggesting is let’s take this bad boy week, by storm!

OK, no more cheesy rock songs after this…

Hello all,

Hope this finds you well. It’s been a busy few weeks, and despite all efforts to stay on top of daily posts, I’ve clearly not. However, not all failure is bad. In fact, that leads me on to my thought for today. I’ve made some decisions this week. I’ve decided to take some of my own medicine and make a few changes to the sail of my ship –  called life. I won’t tell you what they are, because it’s irrelevant right now, but what I will state my favourite observation that making a change first starts in the mind. I don’t care who you are, or what you do every human decision passes through the central control station, otherwise known as brain. This is where we decide (create action) even of the smallest form. Sound patronising? Well I don’t mean to be, but it’s amazing how often we forget, or think we know something and really when it comes to it we don’t. It’s not that we don’t have knowledge, but how often can we say in today’s fast driven world that we truly know something, without jumping onto our smartphone, tablet, or laptop. I read an article a few years back that outlined a few concerns on how social media, and technology could in affect us in the future. It suggested that to be so relient on our computer to remember phone numbers, definition of words and all sorts was keep us dumb as we no longer need to revise, or hold information for any length of time – given the amount of information available online, on our mobile phones, and accessible at the click of a button, it’s evident that there has become a why bother attitude in and amongst today’s culture. I’ve even noticed certain areas in my own life that relies so heavily on information stored online. Gosh, we’ve become so busy that we can barely process what’s worth remembering and what’s not.  I believe it’s true that we  can’t change what we don’t know, but we can seek to know and make a change. Also, did you know that the slightest touch of a ships sail can set you on a completely different course?  Interesting isn’t it..?

What does your walk say about you?

Inspired on way to work this morning, I saw a guy with a black jacket and swagger like he was fresh out the hood that just happened to catch my attention. And that got me thinking…

What does our walk say about us? Not just your psychical walk, although that does share something about where you’ve been.

In psychology they say body language is 80% non verbal.

So what about your life, your business, your relationship?

How do these areas affect your walk in life? And how do you choose to walk?

Do you walk with confidence? Do you walk in faith believing that the best is yet to come and you have the power to change whatever needs changing, or the power to be thankful for what you’ve got on the way to where you’re going?

Not everything in life needs changed btw – which is Scottish for by the way.

Maybe you should stay and work at that marriage instead of chucking it in the bin at the first sign of work. It doesn’t have to be marriage either, it could be any relationship or business. Yet, for some chucking it may be the key adverb. Life is not a dress rehearsal. As Michael Jackson would have said; THIS IS IT.

The truth is, and this is a true reflection on my belief, and my thoughts today that in order to be who you want to be, you have to become who you want to be, before you see it.

So if you’re not quite there yet, then learn to walk the talk.

Don’t just talk the walk.

As they say, ‘action speaks louder than words.’

How is your walk today?

Have you had your health check?

Well, we are almost at the end of the first month of 2013. I just want to ask you today to take a quick stop, look around, and take stock of where you are in the area of concern for you.

Have you made it off the start pad? Have you stopped eating those doughnuts? Have you got yourself together and made some steps towards starting your own business? Have you taken the reigns of your team and decided to do something different this year to produce the results that you have been trying to achieve.

Some of you may think why would I want to take stock when we’re only half way through January?

Well, the truth is we have already lived 528 hours of 2013 so far, and currently have 8,232 hours left…

1. So what are you spending your time on?

2. Are you sticking to the steps you set yourself, to achieve your goals?

3. When do you expect to get there? Realistic and time bound goals are imperative to have, if you don’t know when you’ll get there, chances are you never will.

Sound like I’m being repetitive? I’m simply re-enforcing what I know to be true for myself. ‘We all need regular check up’s from the neck up,’ as my pastor often says.

The possibility of the impossible, being made possible…

We all have a purpose. We all have a set of gifts unique to us, with desires, beliefs and values that are meant to work together and lead us in the direction of our destiny. Unfortunately, due to fear, uncertainty and what appears to be unquestionable risk has meant that many do not venture out to life the full and abundant life they were meant for.

If you do anything today. If you have ever been told that your dream was a fad, unattainable, or impossible, then I urge you to listen to this clip and consider that if you are hungry enough to achieve that dream, to live with a purpose that extends beyond our own lives and leaves a mark – that’s what they call legacy – then let this woman be an inspiration and an encouragement to you that it IS possible to go against the grain and the labels society tends to put on us, and see our dreams become a reality.

“Security is mostly a superstition. It does not exist in nature, nor do the children of men as a whole experience it. Avoiding danger is no safer in the long run than outright exposure. Life is either a daring adventure, or nothing.” (Thanks to a good friend who posted this on his Facebook Post) Don’t let the circumstances of life push you around, decide that irrespective of your past or current situation that you can and you will do whatever it takes to fulfil what is on your life.

The world may tell you it’s impossible, but I would urge you to listen to the clip below and be as tenacious as Helen.

Opportunities come to those who are ready

If you don’t do your homework, how do you expect to pass the test?

It all starts with a thought, a decision, to go after something. In order for a woman to deliver a baby she has to conceive, and to conceive there is first a thought, then a whole host of action kicks in.

A note to make here is that before that all takes place, there has to be two people in a certain place at a certain time. In other words, your environment matters; and opportunity comes to those who are ready for whatever it is they are trying birth into reality.